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Is Your Unaddressed Mother Wound Causing You to Mother Your Partner…

Do you or someone you know constantly find yourself being the "parent" in your relationship or past relationships you have been in? 

Beyond the basic assumption of feeling like your partner is immature, or hasn't yet "learned" how to be an adult. There is much more depth as to why you find yourself in these type of dynamics. 

It may feel good being the one in charge, it may even give you a sense of feeling purposeful and feeling as though you are needed... while your partner may even enjoy you overextending in ways to make his life easier... which is really self-abandonment. 

I am here to let you know that one of the reasons you may constantly find yourself in these type of dynamics may have a lot to do with how you were raised when it came to taking care of your mother's needs...

Did you feel like you were responsible for her emotions? Felt the need it was on you to care for your siblings? Had to be the mediator for your parents disagreements? 

All of these instances could be what have led you to taking on the role of a parent to your now significant other. 

Unsurprisingly, this arrangement isn't ideal in the long-term. It can actually be detrimental to you in the long run, it can even prevent you from being your own person and getting your needs met, rather than being so fixated on making sure your partners needs have been taken care of first and foremost.

If we constantly put others needs before our own, we will never truly give ourselves the opportunity to step into OUR true wants, needs and desires.

As for your partner, by you feeling the need to take on the role of a parent to him... you also stunt him from stepping into his masculinity and being the man that you have always wanted. This type of role instead puts you more into YOUR masculinity for the need to control (from a past survival response) and puts him in the role of the feminine as the receiver. 

 🤍 Addressing the Mother Wound is a crucial step in also creating the relationship you desire with not only your partner, but more importantly with yourself. 

If you haven't already, be sure to check out a podcast I was recently on in Las Vegas.

I was honored to be a guest on The Mindsetters Podcast with Coach Lorraine Lindsey! Click below to watch/listen to the episode, “ How to Heal From Parent Wounds ” where I share my story and expertise on healing.